Let’s face it. Visual arts activate 2 parts of the brain and if
auditory is included then 3. Therefore Bollywood rocks. I am writing
lame stuff only because I want to do something. I want to probably
write. One of my friend suggested that it’s more about spreading ideas
than money. And I agree. But yes, I want to write because I want to be
famous, have 1000 %$#£€$ crores in my bank account and except for
sharing that with my family, I have no clue what the hell am I going to do
with it? Therefore, its a task to think why I need it at first place?
Am
already a nawab dude ;-)
It would be irrational if I think no one would be interested in my write up because I haven’t really surveyed the world’s population. I assume that people who are done with their basic needs that is roti, kapda, makaan in hindi, money, cars, apartments etc might want a new insight. So here I am! My aim is to connect with aam janta (mango man). Now also if people are struggling with what to do next post roti, kapda, makaan might want to free their minds from ‘kyuki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi type drama’ as that also consists of our routine issues nevertheless ;-)
Now to clarify further please dont visualize ‘roti’ as jali hui aadhi roti, kapda as fata hua one jodi kapda or makaan as leakage wali deeware. People who are sentenced to marriage (don’t read marriage as death) ;-) have different issues. Their basic needs are already met which means in their case ‘roti’ becomes the latest whooper of burger king, ‘kapda’ now becomes the collection of zara and vero moda only during end season sale ;-) (not to forget that) and makan becomes a top floor apartment atleast with ancestral jewellery and 2 cars loaded with some staff (maid) ofcourse. Now why the hell am I telling you all this? My motto is to convey that; this becomes our basic need. In our school days, we learnt that if we meet all 3 needs then we must be satisfied but by the time we inculcate this habit, I realized that the definitions have now changed. I remember we were taught this in our moral science class. No, no don’t get me wrong! I am not here to give any moral science class either because I use to eat my partner’s lunch box below the desk in that ongoing class. I think that was the best moment ;-)
Therefore am in no position to give you any moral gyan.
Then what the hell am I offering you if I have no good or bad teaching in my write up? I just want to reach out to you not because you need me, but because I really need to talk to you.
If you are giving me your unconditional response of reading then isn’t it my duty to tell you where are we heading? It is right! yippie so we build our rapport here ;-)
Well then let’s get back to roti kapda makaan and now you know what to visualize our basic needs as ;-) I assume we have a clear picture about it now.
So we are now left with kyuki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi type of drama. We don’t need to really guess the issues because we are all aware of it, be it married or unmarried. Most of our training and values depend on how well we are going to perform in sasural ;-) No matter how western we become, we will always have these values at place. You will almost be forgiven for all your acts in Std X XII or even at your job place. But baby you will be judged based on your performance post marriage. Who will be the judge? Every one who looks like a human ;-)
But truly I am not here to empower you or tell you how bad or good our society is. If you are enjoying this conversation, I am half way through already.
If we only look at urban population then the issues are pretty different. And when we use the word issues, please do not think I am coming up with solutions. Sometimes issues are not to be resolved. They can be used for entertainment too ;-) let’s be little ‘hatke.’
Imagine a kitty party scene. Everyone has an inflated story of all those bahus just being out of the place. Now there will always be few Sharma auntys and Khanna auntys who will always feel out of place. Pucho kyu? Boss; they don’t have ‘tell a tale’ in the group. In other words their life is pretty deflated. In aam janta’s language they have no ‘masala.’ (Spice). Now do you realise that ‘masala’ (indian spices) is not only important in indian food but also in our lives and then not to forget we are social beings. Look it’s simple, if you don’t have any drama then you stay out of social gatherings like kitties, satsang groups etc.
And my gyaan for the young generation, here it is: don’t feel elevated about only satsangis and kitties of 40s to 50s (age) having drama (masala) in their blood. Sweethearts, we are no exception to it.
By reading this, I am not asking you to eliminate drama from life. I am in fact talking about its importance. A “masalaless” life would be like having sex without orgasm ;-)
Since I have written so much and you have read so much, I have some eligibility to give you one gyaan. Be my guest: ” If life’s drama disturbs your peace to the extent of not allowing you to function in your daily routine, or diluting all your interest in life then I have come up with a saying “Get rid of the drama before you perpetually turn traumatic and dramatic." Ask yourself a hard hitting question. “What hidden benefit (technical term: secondary gain) are you deriving from being in a dramatic environment or being a drama yourself?”
Or else seek help from professionals.
So darling, be the drama as long as you enjoy it.
Do not mistake my article by thinking only many people together can have dramatic lives. One person can do multiple roles and be the drama alone.
Find out your negative gains in drama and liberate yourselves.
It would be irrational if I think no one would be interested in my write up because I haven’t really surveyed the world’s population. I assume that people who are done with their basic needs that is roti, kapda, makaan in hindi, money, cars, apartments etc might want a new insight. So here I am! My aim is to connect with aam janta (mango man). Now also if people are struggling with what to do next post roti, kapda, makaan might want to free their minds from ‘kyuki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi type drama’ as that also consists of our routine issues nevertheless ;-)
Now to clarify further please dont visualize ‘roti’ as jali hui aadhi roti, kapda as fata hua one jodi kapda or makaan as leakage wali deeware. People who are sentenced to marriage (don’t read marriage as death) ;-) have different issues. Their basic needs are already met which means in their case ‘roti’ becomes the latest whooper of burger king, ‘kapda’ now becomes the collection of zara and vero moda only during end season sale ;-) (not to forget that) and makan becomes a top floor apartment atleast with ancestral jewellery and 2 cars loaded with some staff (maid) ofcourse. Now why the hell am I telling you all this? My motto is to convey that; this becomes our basic need. In our school days, we learnt that if we meet all 3 needs then we must be satisfied but by the time we inculcate this habit, I realized that the definitions have now changed. I remember we were taught this in our moral science class. No, no don’t get me wrong! I am not here to give any moral science class either because I use to eat my partner’s lunch box below the desk in that ongoing class. I think that was the best moment ;-)
Therefore am in no position to give you any moral gyan.
Then what the hell am I offering you if I have no good or bad teaching in my write up? I just want to reach out to you not because you need me, but because I really need to talk to you.
If you are giving me your unconditional response of reading then isn’t it my duty to tell you where are we heading? It is right! yippie so we build our rapport here ;-)
Well then let’s get back to roti kapda makaan and now you know what to visualize our basic needs as ;-) I assume we have a clear picture about it now.
So we are now left with kyuki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi type of drama. We don’t need to really guess the issues because we are all aware of it, be it married or unmarried. Most of our training and values depend on how well we are going to perform in sasural ;-) No matter how western we become, we will always have these values at place. You will almost be forgiven for all your acts in Std X XII or even at your job place. But baby you will be judged based on your performance post marriage. Who will be the judge? Every one who looks like a human ;-)
But truly I am not here to empower you or tell you how bad or good our society is. If you are enjoying this conversation, I am half way through already.
If we only look at urban population then the issues are pretty different. And when we use the word issues, please do not think I am coming up with solutions. Sometimes issues are not to be resolved. They can be used for entertainment too ;-) let’s be little ‘hatke.’
Imagine a kitty party scene. Everyone has an inflated story of all those bahus just being out of the place. Now there will always be few Sharma auntys and Khanna auntys who will always feel out of place. Pucho kyu? Boss; they don’t have ‘tell a tale’ in the group. In other words their life is pretty deflated. In aam janta’s language they have no ‘masala.’ (Spice). Now do you realise that ‘masala’ (indian spices) is not only important in indian food but also in our lives and then not to forget we are social beings. Look it’s simple, if you don’t have any drama then you stay out of social gatherings like kitties, satsang groups etc.
And my gyaan for the young generation, here it is: don’t feel elevated about only satsangis and kitties of 40s to 50s (age) having drama (masala) in their blood. Sweethearts, we are no exception to it.
By reading this, I am not asking you to eliminate drama from life. I am in fact talking about its importance. A “masalaless” life would be like having sex without orgasm ;-)
Since I have written so much and you have read so much, I have some eligibility to give you one gyaan. Be my guest: ” If life’s drama disturbs your peace to the extent of not allowing you to function in your daily routine, or diluting all your interest in life then I have come up with a saying “Get rid of the drama before you perpetually turn traumatic and dramatic." Ask yourself a hard hitting question. “What hidden benefit (technical term: secondary gain) are you deriving from being in a dramatic environment or being a drama yourself?”
Or else seek help from professionals.
So darling, be the drama as long as you enjoy it.
Do not mistake my article by thinking only many people together can have dramatic lives. One person can do multiple roles and be the drama alone.
Find out your negative gains in drama and liberate yourselves.
Regards,
Kshiti
Kshiti
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